Situation update

Time for an update after my meeting with my managers.

I would like to say it went wonderfully and I walked out full of confidence that action would be taken to stop the bullying.  The thing is it didn't quite play out like that.

Maybe I was expecting more than what could actually be done? To be honest I didn't really know what could be done but I walked out with the feeling that the staffer was essentially going to get away with it.

There is more grey to the picture that I though was black and white and the person's behaviour is not so bad that they cross the line.  They remain on the pain in the arse category.

However the person was pulled aside and spoken to that day.  They had the cheek to ask to go home early that day because they were so upset.  The day was uncomfortable and I just put me head down and worked.

The next day, my plan was to do the same.  I had tasks to do that took me away from stuff we all do together and we had more than enough staff so I got on with it.  That didn't stop the person from making snippy comments all day. Some I think weren't meant for me to hear but I did.

I wrote it all down and told manager who advised me to keep a record and don't bite back.
Then on my last day of the working week I went in wearing a uniform shirt that another colleague had given me,  I have been slack in organising my uniform order and she hoped that the shirt might give me an idea of sizing and I would pull my finger out and do it.

I was glad I did wear it (even though it was a little big), once I got to work it made me feel a real part of the centre and like I was showing the bully that I have no intention of going anywhere.  Then my manager told me she had a training day set up for me to learn more of the front office stuff.  They want multi-skilled staff and after all the crap I've been dealing with I figure the change would be healthy for me.  I will still do what I do now but when the office needs me to, I can fill in for other staff members. 

Now that meant that my manager wanted me to get as much exposure to the front office computer as possible before then so I asked if she could let the people I work closely with know so there was no confusion as to why I'm not out there with them.  Guess that peeved the bully off no end, they huffed about.  Apparently they were angry at everyone and everyone was doing everything wrong.

So the focus was off me and that was a huge relief.  It doesn't solve the problem, now the aggression is being transferred to all the staff but I find myself coping a lot better.

I will just keeping doing what I'm doing, head down and work.  It's all I can do I guess.

Will let you know how things pan out from here.  Thanks for listening x o