and relief I guess
further to my last post...
I have since dealt with both my mother and mother-in-law and I believe successfully in so far as I have stood my ground and not caved (which was typical of me not so long ago). No apologies were given as they weren't warranted and I made a conscious effort to stop "stewing" and move forward*.
And as far as I'm concerned all is well.
Yay me : P
*OK so I didn't hash it out with either of them... that would be making a bigger deal of things than they really were and would inevitably create bigger problems (talking from previous experience) so I've dropped the subject... until it arises again (which is entirely possible LOL)